The "real" vs " the assumptive"

During a hike to Brunswick Mountain in BC i was trying to genuinely listen to a friend while she was talking and i thought that was hard. Because i wanted to pitch in every single second. But i realised that when ever im talking, im not listening then im not learning. Its just this conversations between two deaf people who continuously throwing their own realities on each others thinking that this is the only fact that can stand on because it make sense to them. On this subject a famous french psychiatric :Jaques Lacan, has wrote about the real and the assumptive symbolic world of the human. When you have talked about Jesse ( im not sure that was his name), it seems that he was a one into a million that is trying to live the real. It made me deeply think for a while how could it be that the masses could be living a sort of an assumptive world and not even trying to tap into the real?. In my opinion the only door that can throw some one into the real ( even if you refused!) is Trauma. Its the moment when your symbolic assumptive world fail to support all these flux of unbearable emotions shooting out through your right brain trying to communicate with you the real stuff. And then cultural symbols that we most learn by talking and socializing from each other fails to include this far deep and complex information and looks at you with empty hands that : i don't understand!This small sentence of "i dont understand" grows bigger and bigger causing pain of dissatisfaction. Which will turn into anger-sadness-depression. It means that our small world of symbols and cultural language is not sufficient to explain what we are going through. its time to tap into the real which lies within rather than to depend on the outside cultural world asking for answers because its very limited and build to limit things up to make it easier on the individual. Some people live on this assumptive world that they have learned through talking to others, so, they are living some one else's experience rather than their very own. Its like trying to use an English dictionary to understand Japanese!. I sensed that pretty much last night when i was trying to read a psychology book. I thought that i was looking at the words like symbols and i failed to understand because my limited vocabulary didnt understand the neuro signals coming from the right side of the brain. Now im going to theorize with little scientific proof that our first entry of stimulus to the brain comes through the sensory or the right brain and not the intellectual or the left brain. Thats why when we love something we tends to score the highest marks in it because our mind is opened and we are in harmony with the real that comes from the right brain. Thats when we are truly listening to our intuitions rather than to make it fit into our limited cultural symbols. The only way i guess to deeply understand the right brain intuition doesn't come from language or culture, it truly comes through meditation and no language. And then the left brain will catch up and catch the moment, just here the process of understanding happens.