Tapping into new Terrains

I have noticed one very generalizing sentence that you said : " Men want to feel that they are needed in order to feel secure". And you thought that you were not the average girl that typically show the male that she "needs" him. But thinking about this a bit, isn't that not totally true?. I mean if you didn't "need" him, why would you bother being in a relationship ?.
I guess the need is there, but probably you tend not to express it. The other point, is probably we tend to issue generalized and dogmatic sentences the most when we have an emotional projection. Im not sure if it was worth introspective to navigate within to find if there was an internal projection behind this broad sentence.
In other words i can hear what you said is this way:
" I cant feel that i am needed in a relationship unless im "fixing" or "doing" something to the guy".
" and in order to secure a stable and satisfying relationship where guys stays along, he needs to have something wrong with him that keeps me "in need".
" and its all true because : All Males feel insecure when they are not needed.
" and because im not the average girl, i cant feed in their "insecurity" and make them feel needed all the time"

So, what is the solution ?
Aha!, .. look for some one who will always needs me, even if i didnt show that i needs them. And the only males that will fit in that description are : the males that are insecure and needs some one to fix something in them!

Now its me back speaking ... There could be a cycle of that what you fear the most ( the insecure males) is what you are unconsciously looking for in fact. This makes me question the motive inside you that makes you attracted about men who are "in need" for you based on their insecurities.
Questions for you:
- Do you feel that there is nothing to be admired in you rather than to be needed?
- Can you feel that you could be needed not because you are fixing something, but just because you are a great person to be with, even you just sat there doing your own stuff?
- Can you feel that you can share your qualities with a partner and "enjoy" the process of exchanging life experiences together, just because its fun?
- can you still be independent and "not the average girl" and still be admired for that?

I believe being wanted and admired is based on who we are ( good and bad) and not based on what we can give to others. Giving and being helpful for other fellow beings is a very rare trait these days and this is so nobel, But, it shouldn't be a compensation for an interior feeling : that im not needed around if im not giving something or doing something to others. It should be instead i enjoy being a giver and share that with others when its possible. Im admired for who i am , and not because of what i can do or achieve. Your beingness in this world is a gift from day one you came here, even when you weren't able to help any one else.
And any one cant see that is their problem and not yours.